My thanks to everyone who wrote in after reading about my knee surgery in the July 7 issue. Here are just a few examples… 

From CS:

“I am glad you are recovering from your knee replacement surgery. The metaphor of the birth through your knee was so funny. Your brain will get better like your knee did, just give it a little more time. Thank you for keeping writing with very interesting topics.”

 

From WW:

“I have followed [your writing] for years, and have a better perspective for it. As for the knee replacement and rehab, there is a new and brilliant technology that has only been available for around nine months. It will speed up the recovery faster and more efficiently than any traditional method. I will send you the link.”

My Response: Thanks, WW! It’s too late for the right knee. But I will look into it in case I have to replace the left one!

 

From JJ:

“I thought I was going to need right knee surgery about six months ago. Then I found a book called Built From Broken. Written mostly for weightlifters and strength trainers, I learned that joints can be repaired by slowly lifting heavy weights. I started doing that with a jerry-rigged system I created. I was able to do 3-4 reps with 40 pounds before pain started. Now I can do 10-12 without pain. While the knee isn’t at 100%, and likely never will be, it’s close enough that I’ve ruled out surgery. For now.”

My Response: Thanks, JJ. I’ll keep that (as well as the new technique suggested by WW) in mind if and when the left knee no longer works.

In response to the June 30 issue in which I linked to an inspiring story about a high school wrestling champ that saved a woman from an attempted kidnapping, GM wrote:

“I enjoy when you highlight these stories that deserve wider coverage. This Canaan Bower was a remarkable young man who thought nothing about his personal safety to protect strangers. It gives hope for the future in this crazy world. I always read the comments after an item that I find moving and came across this.

“Absolutely heartbreaking! It makes me wonder about everything I believe. Imagine what he could have done and become.”

So, Where Do I Stand on the Transgender Issue? 

Question from JL:

“I’m having a little argument with a friend about your stance on the transgender movement and transgender people. Based on what you’ve written recently, which is never explicit, he thinks you may be transphobic. Based on my reading of the same comments, I think you may be pro-trans. Which is it?”

My Response: This is a big, interesting subject. I couldn’t possibly cover all my thoughts and feelings about it in this space, but here are some of them:

Whenever multiple ethical, political, and social considerations are involved in making decisions about complex problems, I tend to lean towards liberty. In the case of transgender rights, that means I believe adults have the right to alter their body parts. If the person intending to make the transition were a friend or family member, I’d want to believe that they had the opportunity to review the facts with someone that cares about them more than the cause. But I don’t think there should be any legal impediment to having the required medical procedures.

Having said that, I think there is, at best, a small chance that going through the transitioning process will provide lasting satisfaction. Most recently transitioned people say they are happy with their decision. But based on the data I’ve found, this might be, at least partially, confirmation bias.

As for the transitioning of children, I think that’s up to their parents. But I don’t think that parents should allow it before their children are 18. Let’s remember that most responsible parents wisely impose the “wait till you’re 18” rule on all sorts of requests – from getting a tattoo, to moving away from home, to getting a car, or joining the military.

Transgendering is a serious decision. It is also something that cannot be reversed if one decides the procedure was a mistake. For young people with genuine gender dysphoria, I am sympathetic to how frustrating it must feel to have to wait years to do something they are sure should be done immediately. But it is the nature of childhood and adolescence to want everything now. And one purpose of parenting during those years is to teach the child to delay gratification.

As for transwomen competing in women’s sports, the idea is utterly ridiculous. What’s amazing and endlessly entertaining about it is that there are tens of millions of Americans that know so little about physiology that they believe this form of misogyny should not only be allowed but encouraged. Not to worry. This particular idiocy is sure to resolve itself soon as more female athletes stand up and tell the world what it really is: ceding female sports (and eventually all areas of competition in which females compete) to men with psychological problems.

Already, some of the largest sports organizations have abandoned or are considering abandoning this indefensible social-justice trend. By this time next year, it should be one of those “What were we thinking?” conversations. If, however unlikely, that doesn’t happen, female sports will disappear as promoters and sponsors begin to realize that nobody has any interest in watching them.

I feel the same way about the support so many of America’s largest corporations have given to the transgender movement. They’ve been showing solidarity because they want good social-credit scores – scores that some major investment firms like Black Rock are using to evaluate the investment-worthiness of public companies. But now that we’ve seen what happened to Anheuser-Busch and Target when they went woke in their branding, I think that trend is dead.

Back to Gender Dysphoria 

All the above might suggest to some that I am ethically or aesthetically opposed to this now blooming social trend of gender identity – that people should present themselves as the sex they are genetically and leave the question of sexual attraction outside of identity, as it was when we had just four identities: two sexes and two sexual orientations.

That would be simpler for everyone. But if someone wants to take the trouble and spend the money to go through “gender affirming” care, I’m all for it – even if the motivation is not gender dysphoria, but an irresistible desire to be special.

I am especially sympathetic to anyone that suffers from gender dysphoria. From what I’ve read, it is a genuinely difficult and disorienting psychological condition. People with gender dysphoria have every right to make any changes they want to their bodies if they feel that such changes will give them relief and even happiness.

I am also sympathetic to parents of children with gender dysphoria. If it were my child, I would do everything I could to support him/her emotionally until they were financially and emotionally independent enough to do it on their own.

But here’s the thing.

I’m willing to bet that most people that identify as trans today don’t have and never did have gender dysphoria. What they have, in my nonprofessional opinion is INS (“I’m not special”) syndrome. My personal dictionary defines this as an extreme type of narcissism coupled with a discredited political ideology that is based on the notion that the universe of personal freedom is a fixed pie – i.e., for one person to gain freedom, or status, or power, someone or many others must lose it.

My advice to anyone thinking of transitioning: Research the data. Think hard. And if you decide to do it, don’t stop halfway. Go for the complete package. Hormones. Body parts excised and body parts added. Skeletal shaping. Vocal cord surgery. The whole nine yards.

Make yourself the best transman or transwoman you can be. But if you become a transwoman, allow your biological counterparts to compete with each other. Accept, like 99.9% of the rest of the world must, that you are not going to be winning any national or international athletic competitions.

More on the death of Cormac McCarthy: 

From AS…

“Last night, in honor of Cormac McCarthy’s passing, D and I watched The Road. We both read the book years ago and didn’t remember most of the details. As the movie rolled, my memories of the book slowly came back.

“It was so well done, and the acting was off the charts. Robert Duvall had a small part, but, as usual, his part was memorable. Somehow, the director made the movie darker than the book.

“I know you like movies that make you think and have questions that spill over to the next day. I’m glad I saw this one. It was terrific. But I prefer lighter movies. When it ended, I felt like taking my own life.”

My Response: I hear you. I have seen The Road and read the book. And I agree. The movie was a bit darker than the book.

As for “lighter” movies, I’m not against them. I watch my share. But I have to admit: When it comes to all forms of entertainment and amusement, I try to keep my consumption as healthy as I can bear. I do that not because I want people to look up to me (although I do), but because I believe 100% that the value one gets from entertainment is directly correlated to the mental and emotional work one must do to consume it.

And because, as everyone who knows me knows, I take enormous spectrum-like pleasure in sorting and arranging every aspect of my conscious existence, I’ve developed an informal (okay, I’m lying – an anally retentive) hierarchy for video entertainment that I use to decide what sort of movie to watch.

At the top of the list is, of course, big, dark, idea-laden dramas like Schindler’s List that have both tremendous verticality and horizontality, and that change me in some significant and lasting way.

When I don’t have quite enough mental and emotional strength for those, I opt for beautifully made and emotionally touching movies – domestic dramas, historical romances, lyrical adventures, etc. – that are smart and well photographed so that they leave me feeling like I’ve somehow raised my personal humanity somehow, even if it only lasts a day or two. (For my taste, the best of these are made in China and Japan. Shoplifters, for example.)

When I feel too lazy and/or sloppy for those, I go for spoofs like Monty Python’s Life of Brian or comic family dramas – particularly Indian domestic comedies like Monsoon Wedding.

And sometimes, not often, but sometimes, I have an appetite for junk. On the recommendation of MM recently, I watchedDirty Grandpa with Robert De Niro. I could give you a dozen ways Dirty Grandpa is juvenile and pandering, but I laughed out loud at least a half-dozen times.

From DF…

“You did a great job on your piece on McCarthy – better than the obits I’ve been reading in the big publications.”

From HB, in response to my book reviews in which I mention The Mules, my book club:

“I recently read, or perhaps I reread (?), The Natural by Bernard Malamud, in good part because the movie with Robert Redford has always been one of my baseball favorites and the book popped up at a local book sale. I was stunned by how Barry Levinson took license with the plot and turned a dark and out-of-luck story into a feel-good classic. If you haven’t read it for a while, I suggest you do.”

My Response: I’ve never read the novel, but I did see the movie. I thought it was good, but slightly too upbeat/sentimental for my tastes. Never in a hundred years would I have guessed that it was based on a book by Bernard Malamud!

I’ll definitely get a copy and read it!

From KM… 

“Hey Mark,

“I just had RS on my podcast today and you came up a couple of times… I wanted to send you a message to say thanks for the positive impact you’ve had on me… to say I enjoyed our talk…. I was just watching the replay and we covered so much. I think a lot of people can learn from the ideas you shared.

Here’s the link to the video. It’s hosted on YouTube.

Re my observations about Richmond, VA, in the June 9 issue… 

“Richmond is one of our favorite cities! Things we love about it are the people, the river, the wonderful world-class art museum (of course), central location (between DC, the mountains, and the beach), four seasons (but a mild winter), the natural beauty, and that it’s just big enough to have real city stuff, but not so big that it has big city congestion and other problems.” – DD

 

“I am a 3rd generation Richmonder and lived there for many years…. I have always found race relations to be cordial for the most part, barring the occasional Radical from out of town stopping by to stir things up. As for the ‘Southern Hospitality’ you experienced, I think you will find it throughout the South. I always do. But then again, I am a native of Richmond and may be carrying it around with me!

“I’m so glad you enjoyed your trip to Richmond! Y’all come back now, ya hear!” – KM

From KK re my review of Holy Spider in the June 2 issue: 

“Thank you for your spot-on recommendation of the film Holy Spider. When I mentioned it to my wife, her intense entomophobia made her cringe. After I read her your critique, she agreed to watch, and we both thoroughly enjoyed it. We prefer foreign films as well, but the thought of an Iranian film did not hold much appeal. I was happily surprised to find out afterward that it is a Danish-Swedish-German-French co-production!”

My Response: I’m glad you both enjoyed the movie. I remember watching it and thinking, “How could this have been produced in Iran?” As it turns out, it wasn’t even shot in Iran. It was done in Jordan.

The director, whom I’d never heard of, is apparently known for making movies that are problematic and sometimes misunderstood. Click here for a good piece on that.

 

From KD re my book Seven Years to Seven Figures

“In the middle of 2020, I was broke, working my 9-5 job, and had no hope for the future. I was stuck in a hotel with COVID when I picked up a small green book off the lobby library shelf. It was called Seven Years to Seven Figures. Mind you, I don’t normally read for fun and was honestly looking to kill time….

“That book completely changed my life. When I opened it, I was close to $50,000 in debt, living paycheck to paycheck. It’s been only three years and I now have zero debt, with assets under management at around $1.2 to $1.8 million. I am forever grateful. I often recommend the book as my number one read to all my friends and family that see how drastically my life has turned around.”

From JT, a copywriter, re the availability of my books: 

“Hi Mark and team. I loved Great Leads and recently started poking around at your other books. Wondering how I can get a copy of Words That Work: 117 Ways to Speak More Powerfully.

“Thanks for your help.”

My Response: Most of my books are available on Amazon. (Go to “My Books” on the MarkFord.net website for a complete list.) If you’d like a copy of any of them that are not available on Amazon (including Words That Work, Making the Most of Your Time, and Wealth Building for Freelancers):

* Send a check for $10 (for each book) to cover shipping and postage.

* Make the check payable to Cap & Bells Press, LLC. (No cash, please.)

* Include your name and mailing address and mail it to:

Cap & Bells Press

Attn: GKoo

235 NE 4th Ave., Suite 101

Delray Beach, FL 33483

 

From BJ re my review in the May 30 issue of Orson Welles’s production of The Trial

“After reading your review, I watched it. I’m a fan of Welles but had never seen this movie. I agree with you. It was so good in so many ways.”

 

From AS re my comments in the June 2 issue about companies selling “shares” of museum-quality art: 

“The art deal for fractionalized ownership sounds more like ‘fictionalized” ownership.”

 From BI, re the P.S. in the May 30 issue: 

 “Loved the house of cards video!”

My Response: Thanks, BI. I can’t be sure how my journal piece will come off in each issue, so I try to put something in the P.S. that will at least amuse or delight.