Poor You… You Were Dealt a Bad Hand 

Part I: You Didn’t Choose It… and You Can’t Change It… 

You didn’t choose and cannot change your parentage. Or the place of your birth. Or the culture you were born into. Or the color of your hair and eyes and skin.

But you can choose to change almost everything else.

So much of the popular discussion today is about identity. Who we are in terms of defining characteristics, such as gender, race, and faith. It can make for spirited debates. It can result in legal and political actions that can change the way we act and think. But as for individual happiness and productivity, dwelling on what we did not choose and cannot change about ourselves can do us no personal good. And it can cause us harm.

You already know this. You know this even if you have been an active supporter of causes aimed at “making the world a better place.” You already know that to make your own life better you must focus on your own thoughts and actions. If you want a better, richer life experience than you have right now, you have to be willing to change yourself.

This is just as true for the person at the lowest end of the social ladder as the person at the top. In fact, it’s such a universal truth – and such a simple one – that we seldom stop to think about it. Unless, somehow, the subject is raised. And then, we may be embarrassed to acknowledge it. We may even want to deny it. Because in saying it, we seem to be saying, “I don’t care about anyone else. I care only about me.”

What Can’t Be Changed? 

So much of who we are comes from where we’ve been and what we did or what was done to us. Good things and bad things. Hurtful things and helpful things. Accidents and lucky breaks. Attention and neglect. Kindness and abuse. Like your parentage or skin color, your personal history cannot be changed. Being thankful for the good can make you stronger and happier. But dwelling on the bad won’t make it disappear or soothe the pain or give you hope.

It cannot and will not improve your future.

There is a word we use to define ourselves by the bad things that happened to us. Victim. We say that we were the victim of bad parents or poverty or social isolation or illness or a hundred other things. We like that term because it makes something clear to others. We want them to know that we were not and therefore are not at fault.

But we have to be very careful when we self-identify as “victim.” Because we don’t want to convey to others (and especially not to ourselves) that we are not responsible for what we do and say and think.

History is replete with examples of individuals moving past the most terrible situations to achieve tremendous success. And new exemplars of personal triumph are posted every hour on social media, reminding us of what we are capable of. “If they can do it,” we think, “so can I.”

But there is a line of thinking that has a very different message. It says that we should not look to those rare success stories to understand who we can be, but to examples of the many that were defeated by what they did not choose and cannot change. They really are victims, and it is unfair to even suggest that they could have moved beyond their history of pain.

There is only one solution for such victims, the thinking goes, and that is to make changes in our social, political, and legal structures. To find someone or something else to blame, and to prosecute or penalize them and thus achieve a form of justice and relief. If the cause is abusive parents, the solution is to blame and punish them. If the cause is some thing, like racism or sexism or religious intolerance, the solution is to blame and eradicate it.

The studies I’ve seen suggest that the first line of thinking rarely arrives at a satisfactory solution for the victim. Much more often, it makes the pain and suffering worse. And as for changing social, political, and legal structures – those are long-term projects that usually take generations to accomplish. What does the individual do with his pain and suffering while he waits?

The message is: The chips have been stacked too high against you. You are going to lose at every hand. It’s not your fault, but you’re a loser. And there is no point in playing the game. You should get what you want by virtue of your victimhood. You deserve it and I am going to take care of you. Relief may not come tomorrow or next week, but be patient. I’ve got your back.

(To be continued…)

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Bill Maher on how we spent the COVID trillions: 

More evidence to support the fact that America attracts brainpower from all over the world: 

* 35% of the Nobel Prizes won by Americans in chemistry, medicine, and physics have gone to immigrants. Click here.

Almost 45% of Fortune 500 companies were founded by immigrants or their children. Click here.

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Tallinn’s Old Town, Estonia

Tallinn – Estonia’s capital – came to prominence in the 13th century as an important trading center for the merchant guilds and market towns in Germany and northern Europe. The city’s Old Town, a UNESCO World Heritage Site, is a picturesque mix of Gothic spires, medieval architecture, and cobblestoned streets lined with ornate churches and showy mansions built by wealthy merchants.

What to see: 

* Raeapteek, Europe’s oldest continuously operating pharmacy, which dates back to 1422. You can still purchase klaret there, a “curative” wine (14% alcohol) that’s been produced in the pharmacy since 1467.

* The Christmas market in the Old Town Hall Square, among the continent’s most beautiful.

* The onion-domed Alexander Nevsky Cathedral. Oozing Russian Orthodox opulence, it was completed in 1900 when Estonia was still part of the Russian Empire.

* The imposing Toompea Castle, home to Estonia’s parliament. Erected on the foundations of a crumbling fortress built on this site in the13th century, it has been the seat of power throughout the country’s history.

* Kadriorg Palace, built by Tsar Peter I in 1718 for his wife, Catherine I. The palace currently houses the Kadriorg Art Museum, a branch of the Art Museum of Estonia.

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Que Pasa en el Cajon, 1994

By Ignacio Iturria

36” x 30”

Mixed media on canvas

I’m nuts over Ignacio Iturria. He’s probably the best-known Uruguayan painter of his generation. And yet his paintings are amazingly inexpensive. Que Pasa en el Cajon (above) is the first of his works that I purchased many years ago. Its retail value was maybe $18,000 to $20,000, but Suzanne managed to buy it from a financially distressed private collector for less than half that. I wouldn’t sell it for $30,000 today.

Since then, I’ve purchased five more of Iturria’s works. One thing that bodes well for the future of his pricing: He has a large North American fan base. In fact, more than 50% of his sales are in the USA.

About Ignacio Iturria

Born on April 1, 1949 in Montevideo, Uruguay, Ignacio Iturria studied commercial art and graphic design before dedicating himself to painting. He traced his roots to the Basque region of Spain, and in an effort to connect to his Spanish heritage, spent several years in a small seaside town near Barcelona. But upon returning to Uruguay, he embraced the landscape of his birthplace, especially the murky Río de la Plata, a visually dominant feature of Montevideo’s landscape.

Iturria works with thick paint and sometimes collaged textures with muddy-brown colors, often including toy-like figures in box-like enclosures. “People say I paint the human condition,” he has said. “But what I paint is a place’s psychological state, and that’s why I need to be here.”

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Something that’s ineluctable (ih-nih-LUHK-tuh-bl) is impossible to avoid or escape. As I used it today: “The stress is ineluctable. And unless you are able to handle it, you will spend much of your time angry and unhappy. What’s worse, you will likely fail to reach your goals.”

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Re my presentation at the AWAI Bootcamp in Delray Beach on May 10: 

“Thanks for your advice on copywriting as a ‘financially invaluable’ skill. I never fully understood how many doors it can open in my career. I’m stoked!” – CCJ

“Your explanation of the ‘product development cube’ was brilliant. It gave me a dozen new ideas about how to expand my business. That one technique was worth the cost of the bootcamp.” – AP

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Four stories about people who didn’t let what they didn’t choose and cannot change stand in their way….

 

 

 

 

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My Next Big Book Project and the Problem I’m Having With My Experts

Central American Modernism

Suzanne and I are working on a sequel to Central American Modernism.It’s going to be even bigger than its predecessor because it covers more ground. The first one was on the modern period – roughly from the 1920s to the 1960s. The new book will cover contemporary artists from the 1970s to the present.

I’m excited about this project. It’s going to be important. It’s going to be fun. And it’s already giving me problems.

When we wrote Central American Modernism, we had a paucity of source materials to work with. Almost nothing in the US – even in the libraries of universities with international art studies programs. Nor was there a lot of material online. The problem was simple: Almost nobody back then cared about or thought about Central American art except Central Americans. And most of them were in Central America.

So, Suzanne and I spent about eight years and I spent more than a quarter-million dollars traveling to all six countries repeatedly. We met with museum directors, gallery owners, art critics and historians, collectors and artists – the few that were still alive. We threw parties and went to parties and ran contests and we even set up our own gallery in Nicaragua.

Like almost everything else I’ve done that I’m proud of, had I any idea what a long, demanding, and expensive slog that first book was going to be, I probably wouldn’t have done it. But I fooled myself into thinking I could do it relatively quickly and cheaply. And that got me going. Then, once I got moving, failing to finish it was not an option. To use a younger generation’s phrase, that’s how I roll. Ready. Fire. Aim.

Due to all the work we were putting into it, it began to feel like Suzanne and I were the two top experts in the world on Central American Modernism. So, when it came to making decisions about what should go in the book, I was comfortable making them.

But for the new book, I’ve enlisted help from some terrific people that know a lot more about Central American contemporary art than I do. Suzanne, of course. Also on our team is Alex Stato, who was once the director of LA’s Museum of Latin American Art.

Here’s the problem…

Both Suzanne and Alex are telling me that I have to expand my definition of art. It can’t be limited to paintings and drawings and sculptures, they say. Contemporary art must include conceptual and performance art.

I am having a tough time coming to grips with this. I understand their point. The book could be defensibly criticized for omitting these two important genres. And, in fairness, I’ve seen some conceptual/performance pieces that I thought were clever and even wonderful. But most of what I’ve seen has seemed to me to be more like a con job – a way for hucksters and their promoters to fool otherwise smart people into spending good money on silly things.

If you are not familiar with conceptual and performance art, take a look at “Good to Know,” below, and decide for yourself.

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What I Believe: About Fine Art

When I think of fine art – the sort of art that the Met or the Prado or the Louvre would display – I think of paintings, watercolors, gouaches, etchings, and drawings. I think of sculpture, large and small, in clay or stone or bronze or steel. I would also include some photographs and videos.

My definition encompasses the full history of artistic expression. From prehistoric wall carvings to ancient jewelry to Greek and Roman (and other) classical paintings and carvings and sculpture to genre art of the 16th to 19th centuries to Romantic art, Neoclassical art, Impressionism, Expressionism, Abstract Expressionism, Cubism, action painting, COBRA art, naïve and outsider art.

What I don’t think of when I think of art is, for example, a woman painting her body with feces. Or a pile of stones or driftwood on the floor. Or a discarded piece of machinery on a pedestal. Or a dented car fender in a frame. Or a woman dressed in a pink leotard making animal noises from inside an iron cage.

In other words, when I think of art – the sort of art I am happy to call art – I want it to have two things. The first is what some art critics call plasticity – that it is a physical object made of something. And I want it to be something whose aesthetic value comes from its visual self – how it appears to my eyes.

When art is plastic and visible, it can be seen and judged according to its plastic and visible properties. It stands by itself, announcing what it is through itself. It doesn’t need an explanation. And I don’t want one. I want to judge it myself. I want to figure out whether it’s worth anything on my own.

The idea that anything can be a work of art is the core “insight” of conceptual art. The argument is that a urinal, by being placed in a museum, becomes something more than the thing it was before it was pulled off a bathroom wall. That, in seeing this utilitarian object in its new setting, the viewer gets to have a different and somehow more artistic experience of it.

I believe that is half true. When I encounter conceptual art in a museum, it does make me stop and think. But my thoughts are never remotely close to what the pamphlet or placard tells me the artist thinks I should think. My thoughts are, “What an utter waste of floor space.” And, “Seriously?”

If you want to be a conceptual artist, stick to the art form that caters to the brain’s capacity to understand and create ideas and concepts. In other words, become a writer. And if you want to be a performance artist, become a performer. Learn to dance or mime or juggle or tumble or act.

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