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I receive a regular stream of mail and email from readers. Too many to answer individually, but not too many to read. About 10% of them are funny. Ha-ha funny. Another 10% are funny. Peculiar funny. Like this one from BK, in response to Wednesday’s post about “spoiled brats”…

“Jordan Peterson is a jackass. I give my child everything – everything she wants – because I want her to have what I never did.”

As Professor Peterson would say, “Well, BK, good luck with that!”

 And this one from GG…

“Hey Mark… There’s a small misspelling at the end of your Feb. 14 piece on Understanding the Buyer Brain. You wrote: ‘Do you see what I’m saying here? This feels like an important insight to me. I’m not sure, though, if I’ve explained it well. Let me know if you GROK this.’”

 I wasn’t 100% sure of the spelling of “grok” when I typed it in, so I checked it out online to make sure I got it right. I guess GG didn’t.

And this one from SD (versions of which I get about once a week, particularly on social media)…

“I’ve been a big fan for a long time. I’m starting a business. I was thinking maybe you’d like to mentor me.”

When I first began receiving such invitations, I was so flattered I wrote longish replies, explaining that I had like three full-time jobs and so sorry… After I tired of that, I’d reply by saying maybe, but my fee for mentoring was a million dollars down plus 50% of the business. When someone actually accepted those terms, I gave up being snarky. Now I reply with a single smiley face and go dark afterwards.

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CODA 

Released Aug. 13, 2021

Directed by Sian Heder

Starring Emilia Jones, Marlee Matlin, and Eugenio Derbez

Currently streaming on Apple TV+

Whenever K says that she’s read a good review about a movie, I get concerned. I suspect she’s setting me up for something she knows I won’t cotton to. So, when she told me she’d read a good review about CODA last week, I must have shown a little skepticism in my eyes. She followed up by informing me that it was nominated for several Academy Awards. And then she gave me a choice: “Or would you rather watch some dumb movie you randomly come across clicking on your idiot wand?”

So, we watched CODA. And, sure enough, it was a chick flick! Well, not a chick flick exactly, but a genre every bit as uncomfortable: a coming-of age story about a teenage girl!

As one critic (whose name I forgot to hold onto) put it:

CODA begins as “a pleasantly familiar coming-of-age tale, following a talented small-town girl from modest means with dreams to study music in the big city. There’s an idealistic teacher, a winsome crush, moving rehearsal montages, a high-stakes audition, and naturally, a family reluctant about their offspring’s ambitions. Again – and only at first glance – you might think you already know everything about this feel-good recipe.”

And I did feel that way. But then I kept watching. And although nothing about the plot or characters defied those conventions, I found myself gradually falling for this story.

As the credits rolled, K asked, “So?”

Me: “I liked it.”

K: “Okay. Now admit you were wrong!”

Me: (sheepish look)

K: “Don’t give me that sheepish look. Say it out loud! I want to hear the words!”

Me: (wincing)

K: “I….”

Me: “I…”

K: “Was…”

Me: “Was…

K: “Wrong…”

Me: “Wrong.”

K: “That wasn’t hard, was it?”

The movie won me over. Not because it broke any teenage-girl-coming-of-age conventions, but because of how well and subtly they were scripted, directed, and performed.

There was also what I thought at first was going to be a too-clever directorial conceit of shooting many of the conversations in sign language (with subtitles). It didn’t feel too clever. It felt clever. The experience was very different from watching foreign movies with subtitles (in which you can hear the actors speaking, but in another language) or silent films (where the blocking and acting and photography are designed to supplement the printed text). Observing a heated conversation that is played out silently with hand gestures gave me a sense of what it was like to be deaf. Evidence of how well this trick worked is that in the third act, two of the most emotionally compelling moments in the film were done this way.

The Plot 

Ruby is the only hearing member of a deaf family in Gloucester, MA. At 17, she works mornings before school to help her parents and brother keep their fishing business afloat. One day, she impulsively decides to join the school’s choir club, and she’s smitten by her duet partner’s looks. Sure enough, a romance blooms between them, but a passion for singing also blooms in Ruby’s heart.

What I Liked About It 

* The acting of the principal cast was good and believable throughout.

* The set design worked well with the storyline.

* The cinematography was restrained in deference to the story, but conveyed the atmosphere of Gloucester very well.

* As mentioned, the decision to do so many important parts in sign language was brave, and a risk that succeeded brilliantly at the end.

 What I Didn’t Like So Much 

The character of Bernardo Villalobos, the singing teacher, is a bit overdone. Eugenio Derbez was tasked with not only playing the prototypical hard-love/inspirational teacher, but also the fey arts teacher and the failed star all at the same time, and with the most banal and predictable lines. The result is artificial, but Derbez inhabits it with such commitment that it was only a small problem for me.

Critical Reception 

* CODA had its world premiere on Jan. 28, 2021 at the 2021 Sundance Film Festival and became the most awarded film in Sundance history. It has won or been nominated for multiple Golden Globes, Screen Actors Guild awards, Critics’ Choice awards, and Oscars.

* The movie scored 95% on Rotten Tomatoes’ Tomatometer (based on 262 reviews) and had an Audience Score of 93% (based on 1,000+ ratings). The site’s critics consensus: “CODA’s story offers few surprises, but strong representation and a terrific cast – led by Emilia Jones’ brilliant performance – bring this coming-of-age story vividly to life.”

* “No theatrics, no gimmicks – just a wonderful coming-of-age gem that aims directly at the heart and hits the bullseye.” (Mara Reinstein, US Weekly)

* “By twisting the formula and placing this recognizable story inside a new, perhaps even groundbreaking, setting with such loving, acutely observed specificity, she [Sian Heder] pulls off nothing short of a heartwarming miracle with her film.” (Tomris Laffly, RogerEbert.com)

I wondered how CODA would be received by the deaf community. From what I found, reviews were mixed. Some applauded the casting of so many deaf performers in key roles. Others felt the film didn’t go far enough in advocating for authenticity in media representations of deaf and CODA culture.

You can watch the trailer here.

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Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm 

By Thich Nhat Hanh

176 pages

First published Jan. 1, 2012 by HarperOne

This was a Christmas book – a stocking stuffer that fit easily into my reindeer stocking hanging on the mantle. I put it in the bookcase where I keep books that have been given or recommended to me. Since it was a thin book, it was selected well ahead of others that have been in that bookcase for years. (Plus, it was given to me by a relative that was going to be asking, “So, did you read it? What did you think?”)

What I Liked About It 

* It’s wise.

* It’s poetic.

* It’s unpretentious.

* It’s a quick read. (Did I already say that?)

What I Didn’t Like So Much 

It’s replete with thoughts that, however wise, are so familiar that I thought it might have been better published as a Thought-of-the-Day calendar.

About the Author

According to the NYT, Thich Nhat Hanh “ranks second only to the Dalai Lama as the Buddhist leader with the most influence in the West.”

The jacket cover describes him as a “Vietnamese Buddhist Zen Master, poet, scholar, peace activist, and one of the foremost spiritual leaders in the world – a gifted teacher who was once nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by Martin Luther King Jr.”

And there’s this from Facebook, posted after Hanh’s death on Jan. 22 at the age of 95: “Ordained as a monk aged 16 in Vietnam, Thich Nhat Hanh soon envisioned a kind of engaged Buddhism that could respond directly to the needs of society. He was a prominent teacher and social activist in his home country before finding himself exiled for calling for peace. In the West, he played a key role in introducing mindfulness and created mindful communities (sanghas) around the world. His teachings have impacted politicians, business leaders, activists, teachers, and countless others.”

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Re the Feb. 23 issue on Depression:

“I want to thank you Mark for being open about a very important challenge for a lot of people. I enjoyed reading your deep dive in applying an analytical metric to this problem. I do think your rating is valid. I have been aided by utilizing CBT. I am sure you have read of this treatment. Discovered by Dr Aaron Beck, a U Penn doc, David Burns, wrote a book, Feeling Good, which applies practical use of CBT…. Let me know your thoughts on CBT.”  – JM

Re my Indulgence Diet:

“Just back from Ireland after nearly two years of no international travel… and business travel packs on the pounds if you aren’t careful…. My core vices are starch, alcohol, and chocolate/sweets. I’d love a rotation like this. Your diet plan has given me hope… let me know if this 10lb loss holds up.” – EN

My Response: Give it a try! I’m down 14 pounds in three weeks and I never think about what I’m missing. Today, for example, I’m doing no alcohol, but I had a donut for breakfast and I just might have a cookie right now. Maybe two!!!

Re the Mar. 2 issue, where I included a quote from Bill Bonner about long-term stock market cycles suggesting that both in 1929 and 1966 it took the market nearly 30 years to recover from its low. AG wrote to clarify:

“I don’t know whether perma-bears don’t know this – or whether they don’t want others to know it – but the long dry spells for stocks they regularly cite are not real. Why? Because by looking only at the level of the indexes and omitting dividends, they grossly distort actual returns.

“For example, during the periods mentioned… stocks often yielded over 8%. (And when you reinvest those dividends when stocks are down, good things happen.) When the market hit bottom in 1932, they yielded over 14%. It took just 4 1/2 years for investors reinvesting dividends to be whole again even if they bought at the very top before the 1929 crash. (See link below.) Of course, most investors panicked and sold – or went broke on margin – but that’s another story.

“Nothing has beaten the return on a diversified portfolio of common stocks over periods measured in decades. Not gold, bonds, real estate, cash, collectibles, or commodities. $1 invested in gold in 1802 was worth $2.97 inflation-adjusted by 2016. The same amount invested in a basket of common stocks with dividends reinvested was worth more than $1.1 million inflation-adjusted over the same period. Yet stocks were a ‘losing trade’?

“For a fuller treatment of the subject, you might read Jeremy Siegel’s classic Stocks for the Long Run. The last edition is 18 years old. But you can extrapolate the charts forward and nothing has changed.”

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Bill Maher on Florida and COVID…

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