When to Use Positive Thinking – and When to Ignore It

When my sons were growing up, I dreaded meeting with their teachers. I was always a tiny bit afraid that somewhere in the middle of the conversation the teacher would lean forward, grab my ear, and chastise me. This may be an irrational fear, but it is deeply seeded. It was planted many years ago at St. Agnes elementary school, and it was nurtured in middle school and high school by just about every teacher who had the misfortune of having me in his or her class.

Despite my less-than-stellar early education, I went on to graduate college magna cum laude. I earned a master’s degree, and stopped just short of my dissertation for a Ph.D. I’ve written and published more than a dozen books – including three best-sellers – won awards for writing, and have used the skills I learned in school to help build several multimillion-dollar businesses.

All that said, because of my deeply seeded irrational fear, I had a negative idea of what I could accomplish early in my business career.

But that didn’t stop me.

In The Power of Positive Thinking, Norman Vincent Peale says that unless you have a positive attitude about yourself and your abilities, “you cannot be successful or happy.”

I believe he is half right.

 

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The Advantages of Running an Ethical Business

A year or two ago I got a letter from a small-business owner and “avid” reader of Early To Rise who was struggling with an ethical question.

This woman, whom I’ll call “Renee” to protect her identity, was successfully selling investment software to customers, but she had discovered that 85 percent of them were trading accounts of $10,000 or less. She said that she knew from previous experience as a broker that it was very difficult to make money with such a small capital base. She wanted to know how she could continue to sell the software, knowing that most of her customers “were not going to have a profitable experience because they are starting off too small.”

The answer is easy. Selling bad products to your customers (or good products to customers that can’t take advantage of them) is a very bad idea.

It may seem like a smart thing to do – if, that is, you have no scruples. But if you have a conscience, the shame of what you are doing will take its toll on you. And the expense of that toll will be far greater than whatever monetary compensation the business is likely to bring you.

And even if you don’t have a conscience, it is still not a good idea to sell products and services that can’t help your customers. In the long run, you will end up working harder and harder to make the same amount of money (whatever it is), because your customer base will be constantly slipping away – like sand running through a sieve.

There is, indeed, a sucker born every minute – but most suckers get wise after being cheated. And they will pay you back by badmouthing you to everyone they can, including regulators that have the power to put you out of business.

I understand Renee’s temptation to come up with a rationale to keep selling her software programs. They are well designed. The advertising isn’t false. And she isn’t holding a gun to her customers’ heads … they are choosing to buy from her.

The only problem is that the wrong kind of customer is buying the programs. In fact, most of the buyers are the wrong kind.

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How to Be a Great Negotiator

You don’t have to be tough. You don’t have to clever. You don’t have to be ruthless. You must understand that in the long run the most important things you negotiate – the things that will make you wealthy and improve your life – are not transactions but relationships.

With that in mind here are some tips

  • Figure out what value it has to you – what dollar range you would give it if the shoe were on the other foot. Never deviate from that range.
  • Make a judgment about the person you are making a deal with. Don’t negotiate with people you don’t trust.
  • Always get the other person to make the first offer.
  • Knowing beforehand what you think is fair, be nice but absolutely immovable.
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